then you will know how to live" -Goethe
Lately... there have been a whole lot of circumstances where I have been forced to make some very difficult choices.Really difficult!! Ones that involve lots of complicated factors, ones that have no simple answers...yet...they simply have to be addressed; they aren't going to disappear!! Ones that deal with real people...good people...with hopes + dreams + hearts. Now...here's the thing! I'm a firm believer that
*everything happens for a reason
*the exact people + circumstances manifest in your life to teach you life lessons
*these life lessons will continually show up (under different guises) until we learn how to resolve them.
So here I sit...having to sift and sort, sift and sort...to arrive at what I know in my heart of hearts is the very best for my family. And it's difficult...there are hurts and tears + hard realities. There is trying to balance compassion with honesty; reason with hope. And there are no easy answers!!! There is no book I can pick up that can give me the perfect Zen answer; one that resolves the situation without hurt hearts. So...what do I do???
* talk from the heart
* learn how to be (very) direct
* learn how to listen (again...with my heart)
* try to balance kindness + compassion with firmness
* ask for what I want
* accept that I can only do so much
* boundaries, boundaries, boundaries!!
I realize that I bring all of my stories and unresolved pieces to my present; I know that we all do. So...with this mantra playing in my head..."be kind + firm. be kind + firm. be kind + firm"...I go forward... Knowing that we are all teachers to each other; all on this journey of life.